The Beginning
Everyone has heard of affirmations. Millions of people use them. Almost every life coach talks about them. (I’m one of those coaches.)
One thing I don’t see very much of, is how to apply them so they really work.
Personally, I love affirmations. Affirmations were one of the first tools I started using. They completely changed the way I think, made me more intentional in how I speak. So, how could I not love them?
I used to say really mean and nasty things to myself. I was my own worst enemy. I was miserable and angry at myself, and the world. When I realized the impact it was having on me I knew something needed to change.
When I noticed a mean, nasty thought I started replacing it and canceling it out. And it started with love.
Cringy? Maybe. True? Absolutely.
Old Me: I hate myself. Stupid bitch. Can’t do anything right.
New Me: NO! That’s not true! I LOVE MYSELF! I’m not stupid! I’m really smart!
It was so hard to say, at first. I didn’t believe it, it didn’t feel right, my body didn’t like it. I kept pushing against it and pouring into myself.
The hard part was facing the negative beliefs, the negative self talk.
I had to become aware of it. I had to acknowledge that it was there, and I had to listen to what it was saying, and how it felt in my body.
That transformation was the hardest part, I did it anyway.
The Transformation
I began to ask myself what I wanted in life. The truth was, I didn’t know. Well, if I didn’t know what I wanted, I certainly knew what I didn’t want. So that’s where I started. The opposite of what I didn’t want.
If I didn’t want to be this then I would become that.
If I hated myself then I would love myself.
If I felt incapable then I would be capable.
If I felt stupid then I would become intelligent.
If I was sick then I would become well.
If I was hurt then I would be healed.
If I was unhealthy then I would be healthy.
If I was sad then I would become joyful.
Sometimes the affirmation I wanted to use didn’t feel right. Not only did they not feel true, but they made me feel worse. I couldn’t even fake it to myself.
I needed ease and grace, but saying it felt really bad in my body, made my anxiety worse. Saying it would have backfired. So I adjusted, modified it so that it lead me in the right direction in a way that felt good in my nervous system.
The next question I had was “What does that look like?”
What is self love? Joy? Brilliance? Wellness? What would ease look like in my life?
I spent time with these questions and images started to form. I used google to read articles on health and wellness, and how to be happy, I took time to learn. I formed an idea of what I wanted. The more I thought about it, the clearer it became.
I learned how to be alone with myself. How to love myself. How to listen to myself. How to speak to myself with conviction, confidence, and authority.
The more I did this, the more I used affirmations, the more the affirmations felt right, and powerful, and the more I noticed a pattern.
This pattern was the steps that showed me how I shifted from “I can’t” to “I am.” This is the SUPER Method, and here’s how it works…
The Super Method
The Super Method is the exact 5 step process I developed to get the most out of affirmations. I am so excited to share it with you!
- See – Notice your self talk. You can’t change what you’re not aware of.
- Undo – Catch and cancel the negative voice.
- Proclaim – Speak the positive outcome you want, adjusting as necessary.
- Envision – Visualize what embodying that affirmation would look and feel like.
- Repeat – Keep practicing! This isn’t linear, return to each step as needed.
This method brings your mind and body into alignment with your words, and gives your words even more power.
Extra Oomph
These aren’t the only ways to use and apply affirmations. Once you’ve identified what you want to affirm in your life and you’ve started saying affirmations there are fun ways you can add some extra oomph to your words…
You can:
- Write them down – Whenever I journal I’m constantly affirming what I want. I stay focused on solutions.
- Say them 108x as a mantra – If you have malabeads, which have at least 108 beads, or a rosary it can help you keep count.
- Say them while looking yourself in the mirror – When you do your hair or makeup. When you brush your teeth or wash your hands, look yourself in the eye and say it with your whole chest.
- Say them to a picture of yourself – a print or on your phone, pour self love and empowerment into that beautiful portrait.
- Say them to a candle then burn it – Hold a tea light with love and care and say your affirmations then burn it. For some extra oomph say them again while the candle is burning.
- Meditate on your affirmations and what they mean to you – This is great to pair with the mantras and the candle, sit in quiet reflection as you begin to embody your new reality.
- Say them to your favorite crystal and carry it with you – A rose quartz, clear quartz, citrine, or sunstone are wonderful to use for this, any crystal will do, or even a piece of jewelry. Hold or wear it all day or during meditation.
- Record yourself saying them and listen to every day – I did this for some months, recording my affirmations and playing them while I drove, slept, or meditated.
There are so many more ways you can turn affirmations into a simple, powerful, daily ritual. Try doing one of these each day for a month and see what happens. Affirmations are a really powerful and effective tool when you know how to apply them effectively.
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Love you all!